Showing posts with label how to end a relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to end a relationship. Show all posts

Friday, November 20, 2009

Worst Ways To End Relationship

Neil Sedaka’s 1962 hit “Breaking Up Is Hard to Do” is not a pop song, it’s a statement of fact. Ending a relationship is never easy -- there’s always hurt, frustration, upset, and general unpleasantness. Though it’s not ever something that you can transform into a barrel of laughs, there are gradations of bad when it comes to ways to breaking up (and we're going to explore the worst ways to break up with a woman). After all, not all exes are immediately classed as pariahs. It is possible to have good memories of a past love gone wrong. However, you need to realize that no matter how much you've invested, no matter how many sweet and romantic things you've done, if you mess up the split itself, that’s how you’ll be remembered.

Think about it: It’s the last thing you’ll do as a couple, and if it’s horrible, it’ll be the first thing she’ll recall whenever she thinks about you. This translates into a pretty bad public relations move on your part given that if there’s one thing you can say about women, it’s that they talk. Certainly, women are resilient. The tears will dry and she’ll recover, but in the interest of upping the potential for fond recollection, you might wish to avoid the following worst ways to end relationships

No.10 - Under the influence

A little Dutch courage might make taking the plunge a touch easier, but a sloppy split becomes all the more sloppy if you’ve had one or two or a few too many. Being high is also, quite obviously, ill advised. It is near guaranteed that breaking up will not go well if you’re giggling uncontrollably, paranoid, jonesing for barbecue chips, or experiencing the symptoms of having used altering chemicals. This goes for her as well; if you know she’s not all there, it’s one of the worst ways to break up with a woman. You want to make sure that you are both of sound mind when you’re breaking the bad news.

No.9 - With cliches

Let’s just be clear here. Saying: “It’s not you, it’s me” is ridiculous. You’re breaking up with her. You don’t want to be with her. There’s something (or some things) about her that you just aren’t into. Also, saying: “Let’s be friends” is plain disrespectful. If you’re ditching the situation, you owe her the respect of taking a step back. Leave her alone. If you ended it, you have no say on the friendship potential. That’s her choice, and you need to suck it up, stay away and ditch the cliche mode as it is definitely one of the worst ways to break up with a woman.

No.8 - Mid date

Telling her that it’s over before, during or after a date is the emotional equivalent of an ambush. It’s just not honest. She’ll know immediately that your plans were disingenuous because that’s in fact exactly what they were. If the goal of the meeting is to finish the relationship, tell her that you need to discuss the relationship. Don’t tell her you’re going out for dinner or watching a movie -- and it doesn’t matter what movie, because a post-date breakup is bound to have an unhappy ending.

No.7 - Remotely

Yes, this is the 21st century, but breaking up is pretty much stuck in the past. Don’t even think about ending it online. Dear John letters have always been disastrous, so the modern equivalent via e-mail is completely unacceptable and flagged as one of the worst ways to break up with a woman. Yes, advances in online chatting and instant messaging now allow you to see and hear, but it still ain't live. Phone call breakups have never been easy, so be a man: Do it in person. And if all this doesn’t tell you that text messaging is an absolute no-no, you’re probably too far gone to be helped anyway.




No.6 - Post-milestone

If you have any inkling that it might not be right, you don’t want to be making any major moves like purchasing a house or a puppy. Everyone knows that divorce is not a walk in the park, but it’s also difficult to dissolve the partnership if you’ve decided to move in, buy a house, get a car, or make any other investment together. If making that investment doesn’t sit well, you need to get out of there. It’s never too late to end a bad situation, but why make it especially hard on both you and her by waiting even a minute too long and making it one of the worst ways to break up with a woman?

No.5 - By assumption

Sure, you’re clear on how you feel, but you’d better be sure she is too. Don’t take it for granted that a brief mention of how things aren’t going terribly well will be accepted as an end to the affair. What you say can be taken a number of different ways. You need to make sure that you limit this possibility for interpretation, so spell it out. Don’t count on anything less than a clear statement that the relationship is done. If you’re not saying it, she’s not going to hear it.

No.4 - Through provocation

When a little boy pesters a little girl, it usually means that he has a thing for her. If, instead of getting straight to the point, you turn pestering into provocation to locate a convenient moment to dissolve the partnership, this is going to be mighty confusing, annoying and angering for her and it's one of the worst ways to break up with a woman. Sure, you may disagree over which CSI is superior, but if you make this the relationship-defining issue, you can count on being confirmed as crazy.

No.3 - Publicly

Though from the outset, it may seem like a good idea to break the news in a public place, it’s like a no-man’s land, and that’s just the problem. With public breakups there’s no telling what might happen. In this situation, the event is simply not contained. If she gets upset, then you're responsible for making her cry in public. If she’s angry, you look bad as well. Public humiliation is never desirable (for you or her), so close the door to this possibility and stick to locations that offer you and your soon-to-be ex a level of privacy.

It’s guaranteed that it’ll be over if she finds out you’ve cheated, but you’ll also be forever known as the bastard she caught cheating. It doesn’t matter how much you want to get out, or how much another woman catches your fancy, you’re bound to look bad if there’s any awkward overlap. Also, once you’ve done the deed, you’re technically available immediately, but if you want to up the positive-memory potential, you’ll probably want to wait it out a bit (like the notice you provide when leaving a job, a couple weeks is probably enough) before bouncing back into the dating scene.

No.2 - By cheating

It’s guaranteed that it’ll be over if she finds out you’ve cheated, but you’ll also be forever known as the bastard she caught cheating. It doesn’t matter how much you want to get out, or how much another woman catches your fancy, you’re bound to look bad if there’s any awkward overlap. Also, once you’ve done the deed, you’re technically available immediately, but if you want to up the positive-memory potential, you’ll probably want to wait it out a bit (like the notice you provide when leaving a job, a couple weeks is probably enough) before bouncing back into the dating scene.


No.1 - Through avoidance

Again, clarity is the best policy. Yes, if you just quit answering phone calls, texts, e-mails, and your door, she’s bound to get the message, however, she’s also bound to get mighty upset, and you should know this is the worst way to break up with a woman. Unless you’re a glutton for punishment -- because it will take time and energy to dodge and weave between repeated cracks at communication -- take the high road and end it with dignity. She’ll most certainly still be hurt, but she won’t be left with the image of you as an unfeeling, insensitive ass who won’t pick up the phone.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

How To End A Relationship

It's time to end your relationship. But you're struggling to do it and always asking how to end a relationship . Here's some practical advice to help you bring your relationship to a close. Also what to do if you can't quite bring yourself to end it (even though you know you should).

A relationship not working out is rarely about blaming or there being anything wrong with either you or your partner. It's just that the two of you are not compatible. Remember this when going through the process. The only other significant reasons for break-ups are because of physical or emotional abuse. Virtually everything else is a compatibility issue.

Sometimes the truth hurts
'You're too fat, I don't find you sexually attractive and you're crap in bed'
Would you want to hear that? I doubt it. I also suspect you don't really want to hurt your partner, so sometimes it's best to avoid telling the whole truth. Not lie. Just not go in to all the details where you know it will hurt them.

Prepare for them asking 'Why?'
If your partner doesn't want the relationship to end they'll want to know why it's ending - so they can try to change. There's an easy way and a difficult way to answer this.
If you answer them with a reason about them, then they still have the option to try to change themselves and you've given them a life line to grab at. They'll definitely start to beg for another chance to change.

If you make it about you, then there's a lot less they can grab on to or argue about to make you change your mind. You may want to keep it simple, lines that I know work and may be worth memorizing are:

• It’s not you, I just have to focus on my career right now.
• I just don’t like who I become when I’m with you. I really need to sort myself out.
• I don’t think I’m really over my ‘X’, I’m sorry I made a mistake.
• I’m sorry I’m just not ready for this commitment right now.
• I just have a gut feeling that we’re not going to work out in the longer term and I really need to say goodbye.

In person, by phone or text!How? That's a common question.

The best way for them, and the one that shows most respect for them, is in person - face to face. It's also the most difficult for you to do. But the bottom line is that it's the one that your partner deserves.

If you really can't bring yourself to end it face to face then write a letter. Work out whether you want to offer to meet up and discuss it once they’ve read it. Sometimes a clean break is the only one that will work.

Never, ever, ever, ever by text. Yes, technology is great, but texting is highly inappropriate, offensive and hurtful. In effect is says you're only worth 10p and 180 characters. Not nice! To be honest, I knew you'd never consider that method anyway. But some people do ask.

Expect them to hit back (metaphorically!)
Sometimes people can take the end of a relationship in their stride. Sometimes it hurts so much that the only thing they know how to do is to try and hurt you back. That comes in the form mostly of verbal or emotional mud slinging. And yes, you may hurt as a result of it.
You'll question whether it was the right thing to do. You'll hurt because you'll think that what they've said or done is true. Try to remember, or remind yourself by reading this paragraph again, that they are only trying to hurt you because they feel so hurt inside themselves.
Rather than continue the mud fight, try to be a grown up and leave the argument before you feel the need to sling it right back at them. With all that mud around, it's a slippery slope.

When it's over, it's over
After virtually any length of intimate relationship you're going to yearn to get back together after wards, even if you're the person that ended the relationship and you knew it was 100% the right decision. This is normal and natural but it’s important that you resist it unless you’ve been apart for months and realize you’ve made a mistake.

Getting back together after a few days or weeks, just for old times sake, is generally just another way of extending the pain of a break up. It’s motivated by sadness or loneliness and is rarely a good idea. Try to avoid doing this, you only stand to hurt your partner more. And I know that’s not what you want to do!

Friday, November 6, 2009

When Is It Time To End A Relationship

How does your relationship look? Is it full of arguments, misunderstanding and complaints? Do you feel that it is impossible to go ahead with this relationship even though it was once the best thing that happened to you? Have you tried everything from taking to counseling but still feel that the relationship is getting nowhere? Then, it is probably time to move on.

Leaving a relationship is not easy, especially if you have been together for a while. It is even more difficult when it is a marriage relationship. Both partners have become so used to having each other around that he prospect of starting over alone leaves them afraid. They would much rather put up with an unhappy relationship than feel alone. But unhappy relationships result in unhappy people and take a toll on every aspect of life from your job to your health.

When is it time to end a relationship ?

1. There is no joy in the relationship. There might have been a time when you looked forward to seeing your partner and spending time with them but things may have changed. If you no longer find happiness in being together and if there is no understanding in the relationship, it is time to move on.

2. There is no communication between partners. Partners tend to drift apart and avoid talking to each other. You ought to try your best to talk to the other person and let them know what you feel or what you are going through. But when all else fails, remember that there is no point in spending a lifetime trying to communicate.

3. You dread the prospect of being alone. If you find yourself desperately seeking the company of your friends, relatives and even kids just so that you can avoid having to be left alone with your partner, chances are the relationship is on the route to failure.

4. There are too many criticisms and complaints. You and your partner may have loved and appreciated so many things about each other but if these good things have given way to criticism and fault finding, it is indicative that you are not happy with each other.

5. Changing each other. Do you and your partner constantly keep trying to change each other? Relationships thrive when each partner accepts the other just as they are. There is no use trying to change someone into something that they are not.

6. Wondering about your relationship. Do you keep wondering whether you should continue in this relationship? This very fact shows that you have a gut instinct that the relationship won’t work.

7. You argue a lot. Fights and spats are part of every relationship and up to a certain extent, they are good and perfectly normal but there is nothing normal about arguing 24x7. If you keep fighting, it shows that you just can’t stand each other anymore.

8. Feel depressed. Do you feel awful and downright depressed when you think about your relationship with your partner? Then it is high time to put an end to it. Depression can ruin your health and your life. So don’t wait till you reach that point. Either get your relationship straightened out or just leave.

9. One-sided relationship. Is the relationship one sided with one partner doing all the giving and the other doing all the receiving? If so, one person is very unhappy in that relationship and it is time to work on it.

10. What do your friends say? Your friends may have noticed how your relationship has changed over time. Ask them for their opinion. Do they feel that you will be able to work around your problems or do they feel that you and your partner are simply not made for each other? Don’t hesitate to take their opinion and suggestions.

The most important thing to remember is to work hard on your relationship before walking out. Try all the possible means by which you can work things out with your partner. It is easy to walk out in a relationship but finding love and keeping it is a tough task.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Letting Go Of A Relationship

To many of us, being successful in terms of a career is important, but equally so is being content and fulfilled in a good relationship. When we think we’ve found it, our happiness knows no bounds. And when it seems like it’s over, we go through a gamut of emotions – anger, despair, grief, sadness, and depression. We feel lost and adrift, unsure what our next move should be. It’s actually very clear. It’s akin to losing a near and dear one. And when that happens, the first step is to let go.

Letting go of a relationship (and a partner) that has meant everything to us isn’t the easiest thing to do. But it has to be done if we have to move on, for we cannot live in the present and look ahead to the future until we achieve closure on the past. How can we let go? Letting go of a relationship involves letting go of:

1. The feelings/emotions
The anger, animosity and resentment you may feel towards your partner, now your ex. There could be a sense of betrayal if he cheated on you, or if you were the one responsible for the break-up, a feeling of guilt. Don’t stifle your emotions and bottle them up, but allow yourself to grieve over the demise of what could have been and possibly was, something wonderful. But you have to set a time limit – you cannot keep wallowing in grief and sadness – it will get to be a habit.

2. Envisioning possibilities
Don’t dwell on what might-have-been. Letting go of a relationship involves recognizing that it was not meant to be and that you have to set new goals and build new dreams. Avoid having unrealistic expectations or hopes that you may get back together. Or that he would change and perhaps become the person you want him to be or your problems will just get sorted out. Realize that the relationship has run its course and it is time to let go.

3. Your dependency
Often when we have been in a relationship for some time – a few months, a year or several years – we tend to lose our identity. We get used to having the other person around and derive comfort from the familiar. It isn’t easy to start getting used to coming home to an empty house or having dinner by yourself. It is something you will have to steel yourself to do if you have to wean yourself from your dependence on the other person.

4. Idolizing the relationship
It’s easy when you’re not with someone any longer, and especially if you’re miserable on your own to miss all the good times you shared. Happy memories are to be cherished but not to the point where that’s all you think about and aren’t doing anything about making new ones. You must remember that if there was so much happiness in the relationship, chances are you’d still be together. You probably had some very serious problems and unhappy times – times when you wanted out and couldn’t bear being in the same room with your ex. These are the times you have to think about and realize that your best bet right now lies in letting go of the past and enjoying your single life.

5. All contact
It has to be a clean break. Don’t tell yourself you’re going to call her one last time or give it just one more try. Don’t keep calling up friends and asking them if he’s already seeing someone new or if she’s as depressed as you are. If you are serious about letting go of your relationship you have to carve out a new existence, one that has no room for old baggage.

6. Your fears
If you have to truly let go of a relationship, you have to forget your apprehensions and worries about being alone and how you’ll cope. And you also have to learn to trust again. Not just someone else but also yourself and your instincts. One, two or even more broken relationships doesn’t mean that we should close ourselves off from loving again. After all, relationships may involve agony but they also involve ecstasy and life wouldn’t be complete without a healthy dose of both.

7. Generalizations
You cannot generalize and harbor false assumptions that just because your ex cheated on you, abused you or caused emotional damage, your next relationship/partner will follow suit. You cannot tar everyone with the same brush; after all there is such a thing as giving someone, and a new relationship, a fair chance.

8. Your sense of failure
Just as it takes two to tango and two hands to clap, it also takes two to makes a relationship work. Don’t berate yourself for what you could have done better or how you could have been more understanding. You’ve probably been terribly hurt but have also learnt a few valuable lessons about life and love in the process – something that will stand you in good stead for the journey ahead.

When you are ready to let go of a relationship and reconcile yourself to keeping the past in the past, you will experience an enormous weight being lifted off your shoulders and a sense of accomplishment that you have come out of the whole experience a much stronger person.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Break Up Sad Love Poems

There are many reasons to write break up sad love poems . Everyone knows that breaking up is a most difficult part of relationships and life. Break ups happen to almost everyone; it is just a part of life. There are different ways to break up, and writing a break up poem is one of them. Reasons to write a break up poem to end a relationship include: you might want to be sentimental and let the person know you really care, but it is just not working out. Another reason is that you feel a break up poem will your loved one down easier than a big confrontation. One other reason to write a break up poem may be that you wish to leave behind some sort of memory that isn’t bad. Another, not-so-positive reason to write a break up poem is that you want to be vindictive and inflict as much pain on your ex as possible.

One reason you may want to write a break up poem is that you want to let the person know you still care for them but you don’t think the relationship is working out. Sometimes, people can care for one another, but feel that a relationship is not going where they want it to. It is not a break up situation where the partners hate each other. Therefore you may want to express that. A break up poem is a definite way to express such feelings.

Another reason you may compose a break up poem is that you want to let your loved one down as easy as possible and you think that a break up poem is a good way to do that. Break up poems can be very good when you want to gently let someone down after a long or serious relationship. It shows the person you used to date that you cared enough to take the time to write a poem from the heart, yet there is no emotional outburst that can lead to even more hurt feelings.

One final reason that you may want to write a break up poem for your partner is that you want to leave a good remembrance of the good times in your relationship with your loved one. You may still want to be friends with your ex and leaving a heartfelt, sincere poem might be a way to let your ex know that you wish them all the luck in life. This shows you care and wish to be civil even after you have broken up.

Another reason, not as noble as the first few, to write a break up poem is that you want to be hurtful and leave a nasty break up poem. This is a low blow. The only reason a break up poem is written in this case is in order to inflict as much of a parting shot as possible as the person is walking out the door. This definitely does not make for a peaceful and amiable parting of ways. It can bring on some pretty nasty conflict.

There are plenty of reasons to write a break up poem. The intentions behind the break up poem make an impact on how the poem is received. Sometimes, the motivation for composing a break up poem is purely because you care about the person and you want them to know that your wish all the best. Sometimes, the motivation is not so positive and you are just trying to do whatever you can to hurt them because you feel like you yourself have been hurt. Whatever the reason, break up poems are used often.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

EX Girlfriend Revenge By Uring Rebound

Here's how you can get ex girlfriend revenge by getting a rebound girlfriend...

Step 1

Play On Your Ex-Girlfriend’s Weaknesses

If you’re having a rebound relationship for the sole purpose of getting revenge on your ex-girlfriend, you have to choose your rebound girlfriend well. In other words, she has to be a woman who – once your ex-girlfriend sees – will help you push all your ex-girlfriend’s buttons.

You know your ex-girlfriend better than I do, so I can’t tell you what kind of rebound fling to choose; I can, however, tell you that it has to be someone who:

- Offers what your ex-girlfriend didn’t. For example, if your ex-girlfriend never wanted to do any of the things YOU wanted to do, your rebound girlfriend needs to want to do ALL of those things. This could be anything from recreational stuff like catching a game or going camping to “recreational stuff” like…well, you know. The key for this to work, however, is to make sure the word gets back to your ex-girlfriend. If you and your new fling are doing things your ex-girlfriend wouldn’t do, chances are your ex-girlfriend won’t be at any of these places to find out for herself. A few skillfully dropped hints by mutual “friends”, however, should take care of that.

- Has what your ex-girlfriend didn’t. This could be anything from the perfect body (or body part) to a fantastic job to a hot car. What ever it is, it has to be something your ex-girlfriend knows she lacks AND something she’s insecure about lacking.

Step 2

Use Your Rebound Girl to Her Full Potential

Having a rebound girlfriend is a great way to get revenge on your ex-girlfriend, but it’s only going to work if your ex-girlfriend KNOWS about your rebound fling. As I mentioned above, getting your mutual “friends” to casually drop this information from time to time is a good way to bring it to her attention, but actually showing up at places your ex-girlfriend frequents is even better.

Just be careful not to show up at places that the two of you used to visit together. If you show up at places that your ex-girlfriend used to have to drag you to or just go to by herself, it’s going to be obvious to your girlfriend that you’re just trying to make her jealous, and with that obviousness comes ineffectiveness. You’ll just look desperate and she’ll either not care at all, or worse – feel sorry for you.

Step 3

Make Sure You Know How to Have a Rebound Relationship

It might seem like all you need in order to have a successful rebound relationship (and by “successful” I mean void of all ‘Fatal Attraction’-type scenarios) is common sense, but, there are actually quite a few rebound relationship tips you need to keep in mind:

- Make sure the two of you know what’s going on. Be upfront about your intentions, set boundaries, and stick to those boundaries. Maybe your intentions are just to have fun. Maybe they’re just to make sure you have a date on Friday nights. Maybe they’re just to “go really slow and see what happens.” Whatever they are, be clear about them, let her be clear about hers, and then make sure you both stick to those intentions.

- Commit to only what you’re comfortable committing to. If there’s sex involved and she wants to keep that aspect of it “monogamous,” commit to that if you’re okay with it. If you’re not, move on. Using a rebound fling to get revenge on your ex-girlfriend is entirely possible without hurting someone in the process.

- Recognize warning signs. Again, rebound relationships can be great – they’re good for your ego, your social life, and all those little extras like getting revenge on your ex-girlfriend. However, if you don’t want your rebound fling to turn into a headache or something more like a serious relationship, you have to learn to recognize the signs that point to it heading that way, and react accordingly. This usually means breaking the relationship off, because at this point, resetting boundaries usually won’t fly with someone who’s started treating you like a serious boyfriend.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

What Is The Best Way To End A Relationship

The majority of people on this planet do not like to hurt others, especially somebody they have been close to. Guilt has been used more often than not to keep relationships together. Fight this urge and believe in yourself! When you allow guilt as a way to stop a break up you not only cheat yourself out of having a good and true relationship, you’ll foster resentment towards the other person which could lead to greater pain and heart ache in the future. Why would you want to be with somebody who makes you feel bad by allowing you to feel guilty? Respect yourself!!

So what is the best way to end a relationship? A man should exit gracefully by planning the break up, to minimize the grief caused to his partner

Don’t just ignore her hoping she will notice and go away. You might have learned a little bit about push /pull as a term we use in seduction. That only tends to bring somebody in closer. Which is the exact opposite of what you want.

The "I think you're a great girl and I don't deserve you" line will seem ok to her at first, but later on she will start to resent that. She could also go into how you DO deserve her and try to convince you.

Honesty really is the best policy. Treating the relationship, and the person, with respect and dignity helps soften the blow.

When you break up, Do it in person. Show some integrity and sincerity to tell her that the relationship isn't’t going anywhere. In our workshops we teach how verbal communication is only 7% of the total communication between people. If she also sees closed off body language it will be easier for closure for her eventually.

Telling somebody you are breaking up in person is never easy, but you owe it to her to break the news to her personally. This means not on the phone, definitely not over e-mail, but rather, face to face where she can get eye contact and read your body language. The universal line of “ we need to talk." should be given in advance. This allows her to prepare for what is coming and helps soften the blow a little bit. Do not put too much time between the “We need to talk" and actual breakup as the waiting time in between is very uncomfortable if delayed long.
On doing some research on this I read a suggestion about breaking up in the exact same place you met if possible. This is to suggest that the relationship has completed a circle. A place where she has a lot of happy memories might help neutralize some of the new sad ones.

Ending a relationship gracefully means speaking our piece without blame or judgment and not taking responsibility for anothers feelings. It is important to make eye contact,and give body language that is open while you are communicating (which suggests you are VERY open to what you are saying) than give closed off body language after finishing your piece. To suggest you are not open to hearing anything else. Say your words sincerely, leave no room for doubt , and never back down- especially when she starts to cry and you feel horrible.

Than give that person some space usually a few months at least. Do not try to get cozy with the person as this can really mess with somebody’s head a lot as they will use this as hope that you are getting back together. This is the only way to keep pain to a minimum when ending a relationship.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Ways To End Relationships

So you've finally decided to end a relationship and want to move on? One thing you need to make sure before ending any relationship is to be certain that ending it is the only way out. Sometimes you might be under the influence of emotions and might realize it after you end a relationship. Therefore think twice before ending a relationship. Read on to find out some of the best ways to end a relationship .

Think about what you are going to say- Before ending any relationship always prepare what you are going to say and all possible reasons you are going to your partner before ending it. Remember your partner would always ask you the question why and you should provide him with a good enough reason as to why you are ending this relationship.

Be calm- Sometimes ending relationships can be a dangerous affair as some couples tend to get angry and it often ends up with physical assault. Always try to keep your calm and don't let emotions take over.

The right approach- Never end a relationship over an email or on the phone. Be physically available face to face. When you end a relationship on the phone your partner would be more than willing to meet and ask you why in person which might lead to a dangerous situation and he or she might end up stalking you.

Try to be friends- Never end a relationship on a harsh note. Always end it on a happy note so that your partner and you get some sort of a relief from the whole act. After ending a relationship always tell your partner that you are going to be friends forever no matter what and you would keep in touch.

Thursday, April 2, 2009

How To End A Relationship? Don't Think Of That Fast




Most couples experience a stormy weather in their relationship at one point or another in their lives. This is very natural because there are a lot of factors that can create conflicts between couples and at times, nobody wants to give way. This is where most of the relationship problems start, when both partners do not recognize their faults and shortcomings and both are trying to point out that they are right and it is always the other who is wrong. And the most crucial problem is that, when something bad happen in a relationship, they just decide to end it and think of ways on how to end a relationship.


Do you really want your relationship to end? Think first. There are still simple ways that can be done in order to achieve a successful "relationship rescue" instead of readily jumping on how to end a relationship.


"Communicate with your partner"

Communication is one of the most effective keys to complete a relationship rescue plan. This should always be included in the list as more and more couples these days broke up without even acknowledging the real reason why things did not turn out the way they expected them to be for their relationship. So when things are getting somewhat out of hand and signs of an unhealthy relationship is occuring, partners should talk things over and voice out their sides and open up their grudges before everything is too late.


"Know when to keep quiet"

Although silence could not be the best solution for an effective relationship rescue, but it does contribute a lot so as the problem will not aggravate. Most often, when couples are having conflicts, they tend to talk too much, thus, they neglect one of the most important parts of a relationship and that is listening. Partners should know when to keep quiet during a heated argument. It is not a good idea to raise voices, shout at each other, and worse, resort to physical violence to silence the other. When both are angry, they should let their heavy emotions subside first before speaking because more often than not, an angry person speaks even without sense and never takes any reason. Thinking of ways to end relationships without giving each other a chance is a stupid thing to do.


"Spend time to be alone for a while"

If communication and keeping in silence did not work as part of the relationship rescue scheme, spending time to be alone could be the best thing to do for the meantime. Conflicts have two effects: one is to strengthen the relationship and two is to break the relationship. If these conflicts repeat in circles everyday, the tendency is that both partners will be fed up, and thus the first thing that comes to their mind as a solution is to end the relationship.


However, this can be prevented if both have some space for a while and try to reassess their feelings and realize where their mistakes are. This can be an effective relationship rescue method because sometimes people realize the importance of their partner when he or she is not around.


These are some of the effective ways that couples can do in order to achieve a successful relationship rescue. Both partners should realize that ending the relationship is not always the best solution to end a conflict, but instead follow these relationship rescue methods to resolve them. With all these things in mind, no matter what conflicts come in the relationship, both partners can get through these and make their relationship even stronger. But when it is time to end relationship, and you know you already done all things, then you need to let go.


Breakup Reversed!! Rescue Your Relationship And Bring Back The Love!

Saturday, March 14, 2009

When Is It Time To End A Relationship



When is it time to end a relationship? And I mean really END it. No grudge, no love, just a friendly relationship. You have been getting trough a brake-up a while ago. Once you have finished processing your past relationship it will no longer be a primary force in your life. And the calmness is taking its place in your soul again. But what's next?


Now you are OK, you can smile again. You only think of your past significant other occasionally. They no longer have all your thoughts. And something happened there in your soul and you are starting to enjoy your freedom again.

But all your friends have a steady partner. Few of them are already married, and there you are. You have no steady partner. Time is passing by and you are not enjoying anymore your freedom. You are alone. It is time you get over those broken heart poems and quotes. After a while you realize that you need to move forward with someone new, wholeheartedly!

Getting a partner is becoming your priority. This is good, because one should not continue long without a relationship. Work is not everything in life. But making this a priority has its pitfalls. The anxiety to get a steady partner as soon as possible can land you in difficulties

Don't be in a hurry to decide about who you will be dating regularly. After a brake-up you should know better what you really want from a partner. You have set your own standards and you know that if you go for anybody who does not have those qualities, you will never be happy. Carrying the past failure in mind will result in more waste of time in regrets, but learning form our past will lead us to a better future.

Your next date may turn out to be far better than your ex and may be proper to go forward with, for a life time and signs of an unhealthy relationship will not occur. And sometime maybe you will think " Thank God my ex has dumped me, because if he/she didn't I would have never meet the love of my life."

Friday, March 6, 2009

Ways To End Relationships


Relationships are based on trust, love and understanding. But, in many cases, after a long time this disappear and the couple argue more and more. They can't understand anymore and feel that everything that the other is making is wrong. This usually happens because the partners have grown tired of each other, there is nothing interesting in the relationship any more, or just one of them decided that they want to be with somebody else. So, how can someone feeling this way break the news for his or her partner?! What are the ways to end relationships in a nice way?


--- Show no interest in her/him anymore. Pretend that you are very busy, you have a lot of work to do and you don't have time to go see her/him today, maybe tomorrow but no for sure. Show her/him that you have more interesting things to do than meeting her/him.


--- Don't call her/him so often like you did before. You'll see that she/he will call you every day to see what are you doing and why are you upset on her/him, but after a while she will see that you don't care about her/him anymore.


--- Lie to her/him. I know this might sound deceiving, but hey, letting go of a relationship while doing all the right way can’t be done. If you tell her/him lies and she/he catches you she/he will definitely go upset. Especially if you say that you are at work and she/he sees you with your friends.



--- Upset her when you dating her/him. Be late and then upset her/him more. Even if she/he is very happy to see you because she/he didn't saw you for a long time make sure that you make only things that you know she/he don't like while you are at meeting with her/him. How to end a relationship in this way? Take this example, look after other women/men when you are with her/him.


Also, if you want to break up, but you can’t tell it directly and don’t want to do all the nasty things mentioned above, you can try to send her a message. You can write break up letters to boyfriend or girlfriend or leave message on the telephone telling her/him that you consider that is no worth to stay together anymore or that you need a break, you miss your old friends with who you go out before meeting her/him. She/he will get a little upset but finally will understand that you don't want to continue anymore and will not have the opportunity to beg and implore you to stay with her.


In a relationship this can happen anytime if you don't know to take care of it, to make always with your partner more and more interesting things to not interfile routine, because you will feel bored one of each other and there aren't many chances to make this work again. But, if this really happens to break up with your partner you have the opportunity to choose on which way you are going to do it.