Showing posts with label end relationship quiz. Show all posts
Showing posts with label end relationship quiz. Show all posts

Sunday, March 21, 2010

End Relationship Quiz

We often hold on to a relationship as long as we know we can still do something to work it out. Sometimes it results to exhaustion that we left nothing to ourselves. Take this end relationship quiz to know if it's worth to let hold or let go:

Some of the questions need to be answered:

1
. Do you find your partner boring?
2. Are you still attracted to others?
3. Is s/he still attracted to others?
4. Do you always find your partner stressful?
5. Do you wish that your partner was more attracted to you?
6. Do you wish that your partner is another person than s/he is now?
7. Does your boyfriend often contradict or disagree with your points of view or interests?
8. Do you often have a confrontation even over small matters?

Go & click end relationship quiz and get ready to know something that can help you decide.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

How To End A Relationship

It's time to end your relationship. But you're struggling to do it and always asking how to end a relationship . Here's some practical advice to help you bring your relationship to a close. Also what to do if you can't quite bring yourself to end it (even though you know you should).

A relationship not working out is rarely about blaming or there being anything wrong with either you or your partner. It's just that the two of you are not compatible. Remember this when going through the process. The only other significant reasons for break-ups are because of physical or emotional abuse. Virtually everything else is a compatibility issue.

Sometimes the truth hurts
'You're too fat, I don't find you sexually attractive and you're crap in bed'
Would you want to hear that? I doubt it. I also suspect you don't really want to hurt your partner, so sometimes it's best to avoid telling the whole truth. Not lie. Just not go in to all the details where you know it will hurt them.

Prepare for them asking 'Why?'
If your partner doesn't want the relationship to end they'll want to know why it's ending - so they can try to change. There's an easy way and a difficult way to answer this.
If you answer them with a reason about them, then they still have the option to try to change themselves and you've given them a life line to grab at. They'll definitely start to beg for another chance to change.

If you make it about you, then there's a lot less they can grab on to or argue about to make you change your mind. You may want to keep it simple, lines that I know work and may be worth memorizing are:

• It’s not you, I just have to focus on my career right now.
• I just don’t like who I become when I’m with you. I really need to sort myself out.
• I don’t think I’m really over my ‘X’, I’m sorry I made a mistake.
• I’m sorry I’m just not ready for this commitment right now.
• I just have a gut feeling that we’re not going to work out in the longer term and I really need to say goodbye.

In person, by phone or text!How? That's a common question.

The best way for them, and the one that shows most respect for them, is in person - face to face. It's also the most difficult for you to do. But the bottom line is that it's the one that your partner deserves.

If you really can't bring yourself to end it face to face then write a letter. Work out whether you want to offer to meet up and discuss it once they’ve read it. Sometimes a clean break is the only one that will work.

Never, ever, ever, ever by text. Yes, technology is great, but texting is highly inappropriate, offensive and hurtful. In effect is says you're only worth 10p and 180 characters. Not nice! To be honest, I knew you'd never consider that method anyway. But some people do ask.

Expect them to hit back (metaphorically!)
Sometimes people can take the end of a relationship in their stride. Sometimes it hurts so much that the only thing they know how to do is to try and hurt you back. That comes in the form mostly of verbal or emotional mud slinging. And yes, you may hurt as a result of it.
You'll question whether it was the right thing to do. You'll hurt because you'll think that what they've said or done is true. Try to remember, or remind yourself by reading this paragraph again, that they are only trying to hurt you because they feel so hurt inside themselves.
Rather than continue the mud fight, try to be a grown up and leave the argument before you feel the need to sling it right back at them. With all that mud around, it's a slippery slope.

When it's over, it's over
After virtually any length of intimate relationship you're going to yearn to get back together after wards, even if you're the person that ended the relationship and you knew it was 100% the right decision. This is normal and natural but it’s important that you resist it unless you’ve been apart for months and realize you’ve made a mistake.

Getting back together after a few days or weeks, just for old times sake, is generally just another way of extending the pain of a break up. It’s motivated by sadness or loneliness and is rarely a good idea. Try to avoid doing this, you only stand to hurt your partner more. And I know that’s not what you want to do!

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Letting Go Of A Relationship

To many of us, being successful in terms of a career is important, but equally so is being content and fulfilled in a good relationship. When we think we’ve found it, our happiness knows no bounds. And when it seems like it’s over, we go through a gamut of emotions – anger, despair, grief, sadness, and depression. We feel lost and adrift, unsure what our next move should be. It’s actually very clear. It’s akin to losing a near and dear one. And when that happens, the first step is to let go.

Letting go of a relationship (and a partner) that has meant everything to us isn’t the easiest thing to do. But it has to be done if we have to move on, for we cannot live in the present and look ahead to the future until we achieve closure on the past. How can we let go? Letting go of a relationship involves letting go of:

1. The feelings/emotions
The anger, animosity and resentment you may feel towards your partner, now your ex. There could be a sense of betrayal if he cheated on you, or if you were the one responsible for the break-up, a feeling of guilt. Don’t stifle your emotions and bottle them up, but allow yourself to grieve over the demise of what could have been and possibly was, something wonderful. But you have to set a time limit – you cannot keep wallowing in grief and sadness – it will get to be a habit.

2. Envisioning possibilities
Don’t dwell on what might-have-been. Letting go of a relationship involves recognizing that it was not meant to be and that you have to set new goals and build new dreams. Avoid having unrealistic expectations or hopes that you may get back together. Or that he would change and perhaps become the person you want him to be or your problems will just get sorted out. Realize that the relationship has run its course and it is time to let go.

3. Your dependency
Often when we have been in a relationship for some time – a few months, a year or several years – we tend to lose our identity. We get used to having the other person around and derive comfort from the familiar. It isn’t easy to start getting used to coming home to an empty house or having dinner by yourself. It is something you will have to steel yourself to do if you have to wean yourself from your dependence on the other person.

4. Idolizing the relationship
It’s easy when you’re not with someone any longer, and especially if you’re miserable on your own to miss all the good times you shared. Happy memories are to be cherished but not to the point where that’s all you think about and aren’t doing anything about making new ones. You must remember that if there was so much happiness in the relationship, chances are you’d still be together. You probably had some very serious problems and unhappy times – times when you wanted out and couldn’t bear being in the same room with your ex. These are the times you have to think about and realize that your best bet right now lies in letting go of the past and enjoying your single life.

5. All contact
It has to be a clean break. Don’t tell yourself you’re going to call her one last time or give it just one more try. Don’t keep calling up friends and asking them if he’s already seeing someone new or if she’s as depressed as you are. If you are serious about letting go of your relationship you have to carve out a new existence, one that has no room for old baggage.

6. Your fears
If you have to truly let go of a relationship, you have to forget your apprehensions and worries about being alone and how you’ll cope. And you also have to learn to trust again. Not just someone else but also yourself and your instincts. One, two or even more broken relationships doesn’t mean that we should close ourselves off from loving again. After all, relationships may involve agony but they also involve ecstasy and life wouldn’t be complete without a healthy dose of both.

7. Generalizations
You cannot generalize and harbor false assumptions that just because your ex cheated on you, abused you or caused emotional damage, your next relationship/partner will follow suit. You cannot tar everyone with the same brush; after all there is such a thing as giving someone, and a new relationship, a fair chance.

8. Your sense of failure
Just as it takes two to tango and two hands to clap, it also takes two to makes a relationship work. Don’t berate yourself for what you could have done better or how you could have been more understanding. You’ve probably been terribly hurt but have also learnt a few valuable lessons about life and love in the process – something that will stand you in good stead for the journey ahead.

When you are ready to let go of a relationship and reconcile yourself to keeping the past in the past, you will experience an enormous weight being lifted off your shoulders and a sense of accomplishment that you have come out of the whole experience a much stronger person.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Ex Girlfriend Revenge

So you got dumped by your boyfriend? Does he cheated on you? To make it even worst, the fact that he did all of these, yous till have feelings for him and you love him. You are still trying and hoping to get him back. But still you remain single and heart broken. It just doesn't seem fair does it?

Of course it is not. Wake up girlfriend. it's time you get over that relationship and plan your ex girlfriend revenge. bring back your pride and show that guy that it's his lost not yours. Let me show you how.

First and foremost, peel your ass off of the couch, put down the 5th and get in shape! Go buy new clothes and get your physical appearance in order. From personal experience, I can tell you that men are highly influenced by physical appearance in ex lovers. Maybe you let yourself go a little during your relationship because you felt comfortable maybe not but if you did, you got to make heads turn and have your ex kicking herself for letting you go. Not only will this make your self esteem go through the roof but your ex will want you again and how good will it feel to simply say no thanks.

You know that good friend of your ex? The one that had flirted on you even if you still have his friend as your boyfriend? Well, use him now. Remember, a lot of the time, your ex was busy gabbing about how great you are and about that special thing that you do in bed that drives her crazy so take advantage. Get the friend in bed immediately.

Even if he's hot or not, you should know that he wills till count as hot, for one reason, he's your ex's friend. A revenge lay is one thing but a revenge lay with his friend is another monster entirely. And hey, if he's any good, keep him around for a booty call. Now this part is important, it is solely up to you if you want to keep this a secret and relish in the personal satisfaction it will undoubtedly bring or throw it in your ex's face and take the "what now loser?" approach. Just consider the consequences for your actions after the fact.

Take all of those little love notes, birthday cards, and trinkets he gave to you, throw them in a box and mail them to him. If his new girlfriend happens to be there when he opens it, it will most definitely put your past front and center and 9 times outta 10 make her feel insecure. The real point although is to show him that you have moved on already letting go of a relationship and no longer care whether or not he wants you to have a happy life. Women love to have some kind of hold on their man long after break up and the amount of distress this tactic can create is undeniable. Be creative, or possibly selective with content, packaging, etc. Remember, everything you do after a break up has a meaning, hidden or not.

These methods although tame can be very effective if used correctly. Now, as far as down and dirty goes, that's not my business anymore.And I don't recommend you doing any of that. Do you wish to embarrass, anger or possibly ruin your ex's new relationship? Remember that for every action there is an equal or opposite reaction so be careful.


Thursday, April 30, 2009

Break Up Sad Love Poems - Do We Need It?

Are you looking for break up sad love poems? Poems to help you in your troubled relationship. Sad, sad love poems. Painful poems. Breaking up a relationship poems. Poems written by those who are breaking up and just getting all the sadness out. These poems are useless and you should not use it to worsen your situation and deepen the hurt.

You know, when we are in love it feels like it will be forever. We put all our trust in the person we are in love with and we share our darkest secrets. When our beloved has not lived up to our expectations we are left feeling angry and bitter. The feelings of betrayal that ex-lovers feel are some of the strongest feelings of hatred and anger that are expressed in the world. That's why there are so many break up sad love poems around.

After a break up, you are probably looking for something that can relate to how you're feeling at the moment, like sad love poems. You probably think that reading and writing them are going to make you feel better, or at least they might be able to sympathize with you or be similar to your situation.

They're not! After a break of any sort, especially if it was a tough one, we tend to get depressed and start looking for sad love poems, sad love songs, and similar other things to remind us that other people went through the same thing.

But for a change. Please. Don't be one of them who reads and make it. Move on and stop grieving over that lost love of yours and start caring for yourself.

A lot of people forget how much we need to love ourselves in order for other people to love us as well. If we can't see what there is to love about ourselves, then how can we expect someone else to find love in us. I know there are many qualities about you right now that are very lovable. And youa re not an exemption to this. So if you want revenge, the greatest ex girlfriend revenge or ex boyfriend revenge would be to treat yourself well, be beautiful, handsome and admirable and make your ex eyes crying for you to come back.

Break ups of all sorts happen to everyone. Well, nearly everyone. Most of them happen to try and make us stronger, to see how well we can handle it.

You don't want to miss any opportunity of being too sad and depressed to miss out on a relationship that may be even better than the one you just had? From the majority of break ups that happen from relationships, it normally had to happen so you could get involved with one that is even better. You also want to show the person who broke up with you, that you are a survivor, and they will be much more jealous of you if you're pretending the break up worked in your favor.

So hold your head high, stand and walk tall, and smile, because you never know who may be watching you as you never know who the next person who finds you attractive may be? So always be prepared, and remember in order to get love, we need to give it out first. If you are sad from a break up and been searching for sad love poems or sad love songs? You don't have to anymore. Instead, go and visit friends or family and remember that you still have plenty of love to give no matter how painful it can be when someone rejects our love.

Now, are you still looking for sad love poems after letting go of a relationship? Snap out of it! You are still a beautiful, unique and special person who has another special person out there waiting for you no matter what you may be currently thinking.


Tuesday, April 28, 2009

End Relationship Quiz

Every relationships have their own share of rough periods and doubts along the way. Thus, in those instances, a strong long term relationship manage to get it solved while other break up. When is the right time to give up and let go your relationship? Sometimes we don’t know how to assess, “Just how bad is it and how bad we are hurting?” So here is an end relationship quiz to assess whether your relationship is really on trouble.

The more symptoms you think are true for you and/or your partner, the more likely your relationship is in need of some help. If you have three to five checked off, you probably need a tune-up. More than five, it’s time to consider more serious therapy, either alone or with your partner, or in some cases both or maybe letting go of a relationship is the best answer.

1. You feel worse around your partner than you do when you’re on your own.

2. Your self-esteem has plummeted since you’ve been together.

3. Either you or your partner, or both of you, are dishonest with each other.

4. You often feel hurt by how you are treated by your partner, instead of feeling good while being together.

5. You complain frequently about your relationship to others.

6. One or both of you have become frequently critical of each other.

7. You are unable to approach your partner with your concerns in a reasonable way, without exploding in anger or using passive aggressive (sarcastic, outwardly compliant but inwardly defiant) behavior. Or you expect that any confrontation will only result in an unproductive fight with no change in the situation. You feel you must walk on eggshells most of the time.

8. Most if not all of the issues that come up between you remain unresolved, even when you do try to sort them out together. Therefore, one or both of you often take a “why bother?” attitude about dealing with issues. This is different from “choosing your battles,” because even important issues remain unresolved and “go underground.”

9. You lose your enthusiasm about life, and have given up most of your hobbies, friends, or interests that were important to you before getting into the relationship. Instead you are consumed about the difficulties you are having in your relationship.

10. You no longer trust your mate. This one is tricky, because some of us have trust issues, and find it hard to trust anyone. You may need help in exploring this with people who know you (and possibly your partner) well. Of course, sometimes the doubts turn out to be warranted.

11. Little things about your relationship bother you and you can’t let them go.

12. You find yourself more drawn to priorities outside the relationship than spending time together.

13. Your sex life has dwindled down to very infrequent or none at all, and at least one of you is unhappy about it.

14. One or both partners have become closer to someone else than with each other. This can be an emotional affair, or it can even be a friend, sibling, parent, or even one of the children. Obviously the most destructive of these is if there is an actual affair. Online relationships are just as destructive as if they were in person.

15. You find yourself reverting to behaviors that take you away from your partner that are not likely to support a healthy lifestyle: drinking too much, spending too much time zoning out with electronics – computer, video games, TV; escaping into your work; finding more satisfaction in singular sex (pornography, escapist fantasies, etc.) than with your partner.

Did you answer Yes to five or more of these symptoms? If yes, then it's time to think of ways to end relationships.

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms and still want to pursue your relationship,then it is time to address them as soon as possible. It is usually very difficult to address these problems on your own, and getting help, or in certain cases getting out, if anyone is being abused by the relationship, including the children, is advisable.