Showing posts with label healing a broken heart. Show all posts
Showing posts with label healing a broken heart. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

EX Girlfriend Revenge By Uring Rebound

Here's how you can get ex girlfriend revenge by getting a rebound girlfriend...

Step 1

Play On Your Ex-Girlfriend’s Weaknesses

If you’re having a rebound relationship for the sole purpose of getting revenge on your ex-girlfriend, you have to choose your rebound girlfriend well. In other words, she has to be a woman who – once your ex-girlfriend sees – will help you push all your ex-girlfriend’s buttons.

You know your ex-girlfriend better than I do, so I can’t tell you what kind of rebound fling to choose; I can, however, tell you that it has to be someone who:

- Offers what your ex-girlfriend didn’t. For example, if your ex-girlfriend never wanted to do any of the things YOU wanted to do, your rebound girlfriend needs to want to do ALL of those things. This could be anything from recreational stuff like catching a game or going camping to “recreational stuff” like…well, you know. The key for this to work, however, is to make sure the word gets back to your ex-girlfriend. If you and your new fling are doing things your ex-girlfriend wouldn’t do, chances are your ex-girlfriend won’t be at any of these places to find out for herself. A few skillfully dropped hints by mutual “friends”, however, should take care of that.

- Has what your ex-girlfriend didn’t. This could be anything from the perfect body (or body part) to a fantastic job to a hot car. What ever it is, it has to be something your ex-girlfriend knows she lacks AND something she’s insecure about lacking.

Step 2

Use Your Rebound Girl to Her Full Potential

Having a rebound girlfriend is a great way to get revenge on your ex-girlfriend, but it’s only going to work if your ex-girlfriend KNOWS about your rebound fling. As I mentioned above, getting your mutual “friends” to casually drop this information from time to time is a good way to bring it to her attention, but actually showing up at places your ex-girlfriend frequents is even better.

Just be careful not to show up at places that the two of you used to visit together. If you show up at places that your ex-girlfriend used to have to drag you to or just go to by herself, it’s going to be obvious to your girlfriend that you’re just trying to make her jealous, and with that obviousness comes ineffectiveness. You’ll just look desperate and she’ll either not care at all, or worse – feel sorry for you.

Step 3

Make Sure You Know How to Have a Rebound Relationship

It might seem like all you need in order to have a successful rebound relationship (and by “successful” I mean void of all ‘Fatal Attraction’-type scenarios) is common sense, but, there are actually quite a few rebound relationship tips you need to keep in mind:

- Make sure the two of you know what’s going on. Be upfront about your intentions, set boundaries, and stick to those boundaries. Maybe your intentions are just to have fun. Maybe they’re just to make sure you have a date on Friday nights. Maybe they’re just to “go really slow and see what happens.” Whatever they are, be clear about them, let her be clear about hers, and then make sure you both stick to those intentions.

- Commit to only what you’re comfortable committing to. If there’s sex involved and she wants to keep that aspect of it “monogamous,” commit to that if you’re okay with it. If you’re not, move on. Using a rebound fling to get revenge on your ex-girlfriend is entirely possible without hurting someone in the process.

- Recognize warning signs. Again, rebound relationships can be great – they’re good for your ego, your social life, and all those little extras like getting revenge on your ex-girlfriend. However, if you don’t want your rebound fling to turn into a headache or something more like a serious relationship, you have to learn to recognize the signs that point to it heading that way, and react accordingly. This usually means breaking the relationship off, because at this point, resetting boundaries usually won’t fly with someone who’s started treating you like a serious boyfriend.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

What Is The Best Way To End A Relationship



Ending a relationship is never easy. Actually, it is one of the hardest things to do since you will have to consider what your partner will feel. Often times, you have sleepless nights thinking things over and over because you do not want to regret your decision in the end. So, the big question is what is the best way to end a relationship?


Letting go of a relationship is as hard on the person who is ending the relationship as it is on the person who is being broken up with. For sure, you do not want to hurt your partner because he or she has been close to you for months or even years and you do not want to be guilty because of your action.


The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that when ending a relationship, you have to do it in person. It is always better that you talk about it in person and you explain to him or to her the reason why it is better to be that way. By doing it personally, you show sincerity and integrity. That way, whatever is the reaction of your partner, you will be able to know immediately and closure will be easier achieved.


However, it is never easy to end a relationship personally. You have to choose the right words so your partner will be able to accept and understand your reason. It is always better to say things in person than to do it on the phone, email, or even through a letter. This has to be done face to face where both of you can have eye contact and see each other’s reactions. Then explain one by one the signs of an unhealthy relationship that occurs on your relationship.


Ending a relationship is really a very difficult thing to do. However, if you know exactly what to do and how to do it gracefully, you will be able to go through with it without feeling guilty.


Just make sure that you say the words sincerely, maintain an eye contact, leave no room for doubt, and most of all do not ever back down especially when your partner started crying and you feel terrible about it.

You have to stick to your decision and make sure that your partner gets the message. If he or she could not accept your decision at once, then you have to give him or her some space but you should never give any false hopes of getting back together and healing a broken heart. This is the best way to minimize pain when ending a relationship.